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Taking Control of Your Own Life

Taking Control of Your Own Life

I have encountered a fair number of new clients or friends who get upset when I talk about being in control of your own life.  Like, really upset. In fact, one person called me out on it pretty harshly.  I’m okay with that.  I’ve found the blessing in this. When someone calls you out on your beliefs you have a choice to make it work for you or get really upset and defensive. You see, it can cause you to…

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Forgive For YOU

Forgive For YOU

Ooohh..Someone done you wrong? Vengeance is MINE! I seek revenge for.. I will make them pay. You will rue the day! (okay that one was more for fun) Any of those catch your fancy? You know..crap happens. People who choose crappy actions happen. The question is are you going to spend your one, precious life being angry and victimized?  Your choice. First, before you jump all over me, yes I know it is perfectly natural and sometimes quite healthy to…

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I Lied And Said I Was Busy

I Lied And Said I Was Busy

Have you ever lied about being ‘busy’? The vague ‘oh I have an appointment then” when you really don’t? That sort of thing? I most certainly have.  In the past I think I lied about this quite often. Or worse didn’t and struggled through situations that were far too much for my physical well-being, not to mention emotional or mental well-being. I don’t know about you, but I use to lie about being busy to avoid the looks, the feelings…

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A Word On Enough-ness

A Word On Enough-ness

Beautiful Soul, this is your friendly reminder that You Are Enough. Too often we push and pull at our Selves, til we hardly recognize who we really are in this world because we’re trying so desperately to fit into it. Desperate to BE enough, when the truth it our enough-ness is already Truth. You are NOT responsible for anyone else. You are not them. They are not you. And yet, we are all innately connected. But only you are responsible…

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Should we have Compassion for Bad People?

Should we have Compassion for Bad People?

Someone I know asked a really tough question the other day.  They were angry about someone who had hurt a child and were being allowed access to tv, computers and learning while in jail.  The comment was something along the lines of ‘how do they deserve that?’. The story was disturbing, but the question she asked remained in my head for a long time.  She mentioned that she tries to have compassion for others in her daily life but can’t…

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How One Minute Can Change Everything

How One Minute Can Change Everything

“I only have a minute” Famous last words right?  I mean, what’s a ‘minute’ but 60 seconds? It seems like such a tiny amount of time and yet, it’s really only as small as you make it. After all, how much time does it take to say “I love you.”  Or “I want to break up.” Or have someone crash into you? Less than that 60 seconds and still the world can completely change. Of course, it doesn’t have to…

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Why Successful People Seek Coaching

Why Successful People Seek Coaching

One of the things I often have to explain to people is that coaching is not therapy, mentoring or being your bestie who will love you, listen and tell you you’re wonderful, no matter what. (I will tell you the truth lovely, even if you don’t like it) I have referred people to a therapist when I realized they are looking for help healing past trauma.  While coaching can provide inner healing, it’s not a replacement for the type of…

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Peeling Back the Curtain – How I DO Self-Care

Peeling Back the Curtain – How I DO Self-Care

Self care needs to be purposeful! Yes, yes I know I’ve said that before (a few hundred times) and yet there are some folks out there you have heard it – but clearly don’t get it.  How do I know? Simple, because they are not living it. Too many folks are half-assing it, forgetting about it or not prioritizing it and then wondering why self care doesn’t help them. So I’ve decided to share with you some of the very…

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How to Loosen the Habit of Judgment

How to Loosen the Habit of Judgment

We all do it, it’s a natural part of our human experience…judging things and people. Some folks will tell you that it’s ‘helpful’ and we need a certain amount of judgment in our lives in order to live them. You know, we need to judge whether something is right for us, if a situation is safe or helpful, if another person is going to be a good fit as a friend. But let me make a case for the difference…

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How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

Imagine for a moment that I have my magic wand out…you know the one. Today I’m going to take it and wave it around and give you a gift. It is a speaker that will take your thoughts and amplify them so everyone around you can hear them.  But don’t worry, it will ONLY use the thoughts you have directed at yourself. That cutie on the bus you see every day on the way to work will never know you…

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