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How Do People Pleasers Say No?

How Do People Pleasers Say No?

So how do ‘people pleasers’ say no?  Well as someone who knows very well she is a recovering (and still very much working at it) people pleaser, I can tell you simply…we don’t. Full stop. It doesn’t happen. Now we quite often MEAN to say no, we just do it in such a round-about, don’t want to upset any apple carts or make anyone unhappy way…that it sounds, at best, like a ‘maybe’. And we are lying. To ourselves and…

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Is Your Phone Making You Happier Mentally and Emotionally?

Is Your Phone Making You Happier Mentally and Emotionally?

When was the last time you checked your phone? And the time before that? And before that? If you are anything like most people, you know it was only moments or at best minutes. Depending on the study done, the average number of times a person checks their phone can range from about 80 to 96 times a day. That’s an average so that of course means some times it’s less, but it also means some times it is more!…

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How Our Own Expectations Frustrate Us

How Our Own Expectations Frustrate Us

I remember hearing that advice for the first time. Or at least it was the first time I actually paid attention and really ‘heard’ it if you know what I mean. You Teach People How to Treat You It was kind of confusing. I mean, was I supposed to just TELL everyone all the time exactly how I wanted to be treated? That seemed like a lot. But it actually is like that. However, there are other ways we do…

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I Lied And Said I Was Busy

I Lied And Said I Was Busy

Have you ever lied about being ‘busy’? The vague ‘oh I have an appointment then” when you really don’t? That sort of thing? I most certainly have.  In the past I think I lied about this quite often. Or worse didn’t and struggled through situations that were far too much for my physical well-being, not to mention emotional or mental well-being. I don’t know about you, but I use to lie about being busy to avoid the looks, the feelings…

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A Word On Enough-ness

A Word On Enough-ness

Beautiful Soul, this is your friendly reminder that You Are Enough. Too often we push and pull at our Selves, til we hardly recognize who we really are in this world because we’re trying so desperately to fit into it. Desperate to BE enough, when the truth it our enough-ness is already Truth. You are NOT responsible for anyone else. You are not them. They are not you. And yet, we are all innately connected. But only you are responsible…

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The Darker Side Of Giving

The Darker Side Of Giving

Giving is a wonderful thing isn’t it?  Well, it IS, til it’s not. We’ve been bombarded with messages our whole lives about the wonderful magic and giving. Better to give than receive The giver is blessed thrice over Giving is better than receiving I don’t want anything except to make you happy He’s so nice he’d give you the shirt off his own back You can only get what you give There is a lot that we could unpack about…

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Why You Don’t Need New Year Resolutions

Why You Don’t Need New Year Resolutions

Why don’t you need to bother with New Year’s resolutions? Easy answer?  Because they SUCK and you don’t really care about them anyway. C’mon, am I right? Little bit? Yeah, I thought so. It’s December 31st, 2016 today. New Year’s Eve Baby! At 8am I’ve already had 3 emails and have seen multiple Facebook and twitter posts about how to ‘FIX’ your new year’s resolutions this year.  Everything from wording them differently, to buy this app, to getting a ‘resolution…

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Personal Boundaries Are Beautiful – Here’s Why

Personal Boundaries Are Beautiful – Here’s Why

Boundaries! I think these might be the things my tribe most want to talk about when they first begin. There are a lot of myths and beliefs that cause a great deal of discomfort and stress when it comes to boundaries. I get it, but they shouldn’t. Boundaries are a beautiful thing! Well, they are when they are done right. Let’s get clear however, around what I mean when I say personal boundaries. I’m talking about the choices you make…

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