So how do ‘people pleasers’ say no? Well as someone who knows very well she is a recovering (and still very much working at it) people pleaser, I can tell you simply…we don’t. Full stop. It doesn’t happen. Now we quite often MEAN to say no, we just do it in such a round-about, don’t want to upset any apple carts or make anyone unhappy way…that it sounds, at best, like a ‘maybe’. And we are lying. To ourselves and…
I learned something interesting last weekend about my spider plants. You see, I have two of them. One was at my home in a nice cozy spot on its own pedestal (like literally, I’m not treating it like some sort of plant god or anything!) The other was usually outside of my home and was often (and I mean OFTEN) moved around, bumped, placed in a bag for transport…it traveled! Guess which one was growing like crazy pants? You might…
Benjamin Franklin once said that “energy and persistence conquer all things.” That guy knew a very big secret to success and happiness. It isn’t just about talent or skill set, it more often is about persistence. This is true in every aspect of life. Have you ever heard something like ‘his overnight success took 10 years?’ It’s really bang on. There are so many examples of people who are successful who were not especially talented, educated or extra smart. They…
I’m telling stories, making metaphors and sharing the one thing we do that often prevents us from getting what we want in life. I also share a very special tool I use almost every day! How do you find you tend to get in your own way? (let me know in the comments below) We all do it sometimes and in SO many different ways. Staying aware, taking time to reflect often can help us move out of that…
2018 is a Year 11 in numerology (2+0+1+8 = 11). It brings with it some interesting energy and connections. In the video below, bring to you some through provoking insights that you can journal/reflect on that might help you step into your brilliance and your truth for this brand spanking New Year. Actually, this decision-making reflection that is being inspired by the master number 11, the tarot card justice and the energy of the cycle we are in is one…
I have encountered a fair number of new clients or friends who get upset when I talk about being in control of your own life. Like, really upset. In fact, one person called me out on it pretty harshly. I’m okay with that. I’ve found the blessing in this. When someone calls you out on your beliefs you have a choice to make it work for you or get really upset and defensive. You see, it can cause you to…
Ooohh..Someone done you wrong? Vengeance is MINE! I seek revenge for.. I will make them pay. You will rue the day! (okay that one was more for fun) Any of those catch your fancy? You know..crap happens. People who choose crappy actions happen. The question is are you going to spend your one, precious life being angry and victimized? Your choice. First, before you jump all over me, yes I know it is perfectly natural and sometimes quite healthy to…
Have you ever lied about being ‘busy’? The vague ‘oh I have an appointment then” when you really don’t? That sort of thing? I most certainly have. In the past I think I lied about this quite often. Or worse didn’t and struggled through situations that were far too much for my physical well-being, not to mention emotional or mental well-being. I don’t know about you, but I use to lie about being busy to avoid the looks, the feelings…
Beautiful Soul, this is your friendly reminder that You Are Enough. Too often we push and pull at our Selves, til we hardly recognize who we really are in this world because we’re trying so desperately to fit into it. Desperate to BE enough, when the truth it our enough-ness is already Truth. You are NOT responsible for anyone else. You are not them. They are not you. And yet, we are all innately connected. But only you are responsible…
One of the things I often have to explain to people is that coaching is not therapy, mentoring or being your bestie who will love you, listen and tell you you’re wonderful, no matter what. (I will tell you the truth lovely, even if you don’t like it) I have referred people to a therapist when I realized they are looking for help healing past trauma. While coaching can provide inner healing, it’s not a replacement for the type of…