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How Do People Pleasers Say No?

How Do People Pleasers Say No?

So how do ‘people pleasers’ say no?  Well as someone who knows very well she is a recovering (and still very much working at it) people pleaser, I can tell you simply…we don’t. Full stop. It doesn’t happen. Now we quite often MEAN to say no, we just do it in such a round-about, don’t want to upset any apple carts or make anyone unhappy way…that it sounds, at best, like a ‘maybe’. And we are lying. To ourselves and…

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I Lied And Said I Was Busy

I Lied And Said I Was Busy

Have you ever lied about being ‘busy’? The vague ‘oh I have an appointment then” when you really don’t? That sort of thing? I most certainly have.  In the past I think I lied about this quite often. Or worse didn’t and struggled through situations that were far too much for my physical well-being, not to mention emotional or mental well-being. I don’t know about you, but I use to lie about being busy to avoid the looks, the feelings…

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How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

How To Ditch Self Criticizing Thoughts

Imagine for a moment that I have my magic wand out…you know the one. Today I’m going to take it and wave it around and give you a gift. It is a speaker that will take your thoughts and amplify them so everyone around you can hear them.  But don’t worry, it will ONLY use the thoughts you have directed at yourself. That cutie on the bus you see every day on the way to work will never know you…

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Why Motivation Is A Line of BS

Why Motivation Is A Line of BS

We’ve been fed a line, and we’ve taken the bait because it sounded delicious. Motivation. Truly, a bunch of crap and half-truths are floating around out there and these are keeping people from being honest and getting shit done. So listen, if you ARE feeling motivated right now – hey get going! Have at it and enjoy! For those of us ‘other’ folks who aren’t? Here’s the truth…your probably not going to get motivated anytime soon. Well, at least you…

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What If Our Problems ARE What Make Us Happy?

What If Our Problems ARE What Make Us Happy?

Sometimes the problem is not the problem, only our interpretation of the problem is the problem. Get it? Ya, it’s a bit messy sounding and can lead down a pretty winding path of eye’s widening and exclaiming “ooooh!” I’m not going to lie, that winding path goes deep.  Still, you don’t have to walk the whole thing today. Just get started, start thinking about things a little differently. A great philosopher (whose name escapes me right now, but if you…

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Why You Don’t Need New Year Resolutions

Why You Don’t Need New Year Resolutions

Why don’t you need to bother with New Year’s resolutions? Easy answer?  Because they SUCK and you don’t really care about them anyway. C’mon, am I right? Little bit? Yeah, I thought so. It’s December 31st, 2016 today. New Year’s Eve Baby! At 8am I’ve already had 3 emails and have seen multiple Facebook and twitter posts about how to ‘FIX’ your new year’s resolutions this year.  Everything from wording them differently, to buy this app, to getting a ‘resolution…

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What F.O.M.O. is and how it’s hurting you

What F.O.M.O. is and how it’s hurting you

You may have heard me say that most of us need to be far more gentle with our selves than we generally are.  Heck, I may have even said it to you directly. I’m a BIG believer that we ought to treat ourselves as nicely (or better) than we would treat any one else. Unfortunately, that often is not the case. There seems to be this weird perception that there some badge of honor for abusing ourselves. You know what…

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Personal Boundaries Are Beautiful – Here’s Why

Personal Boundaries Are Beautiful – Here’s Why

Boundaries! I think these might be the things my tribe most want to talk about when they first begin. There are a lot of myths and beliefs that cause a great deal of discomfort and stress when it comes to boundaries. I get it, but they shouldn’t. Boundaries are a beautiful thing! Well, they are when they are done right. Let’s get clear however, around what I mean when I say personal boundaries. I’m talking about the choices you make…

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Are you in the “it’s all crappy club”?

Are you in the “it’s all crappy club”?

Trust me, this is a real thing.  And it’s awesome because anyone can join in and many do! There is absolutely no requirements except a negative, pessimistic, whiny, attitude,   Mind you, with a dash of victim mentality you can really move up the ranks! How do you know if you are in the ‘it’s all crappy’ club?  Check your mindset! What lens are you viewing the world through? Listen to how you talk to others and to yourself.  Listen…

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What You’re Worth

What You’re Worth

I’ve been seeing a lot of posts lately about worth. Some have been about how to share your worth, being true to it or even questioning it. Lovelies, you have NO idea what you are worth. And you cannot ever know the unimaginable ways that you have affected this world as you walk through it. It’s not for you to know…it’s not all that important. Needing to know is ego. You shine like no one else can, and your light…

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